I particularly loved when you said, "Love is a verb. Loving the unlovable is a choice, an action." That's such a powerful statement! It’s so easy to think of love as a feeling, something that just happens or doesn't. But framing it as an action, a choice, shifts everything. It reminds me that even when the emotions aren’t there, we can still choose to act with kindness and compassion. It’s not always easy, especially when those “unlovable parts” you mentioned are our own. Yet, as you said, choosing to love those parts, to accept them and work with them, not against them, is a way to heal and grow. It’s a conscious practice, a daily decision to extend grace and understanding, both to ourselves and to others. It's like choosing to plant a garden when all you see is weeds. It takes effort and commitment, but the rewards are immeasurable.
I'm so glad experiment 1 turned out a success, you can likely trace the person you've become back to that initial experiment!
Experiment 3 is fundamental, I think we all need to make that realisation at some point in our lives that maybe we were wrong at first.
#5, the horse training sounds fascinating, I kind of think that sounds like the "fake it till you make it" mindset. Where you believe you can, so you can. Or when a child falls down and hurt's themselves, if you act like it's no big deal, it isn't but if you fuss over them and coddle them, they will lean into the hurt because you're signalling they should.
#6 hits home, I don't take compliments or attention well, I really don't know why. I need to work through that.
I love this Virg, exactly the kind of thing I was hoping to read, and you treated us to not one experiment but six! I'm glad to see that for the most part they have all worked out so far. Thank you so much for taking part this month!
Love is a choice we make. This is a wonderful read, Virg. I will envision the outcome, no matter what my mind wants me to believe.
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Thank you for commenting. I'm so inspired by you. We need more love in the world.
I particularly loved when you said, "Love is a verb. Loving the unlovable is a choice, an action." That's such a powerful statement! It’s so easy to think of love as a feeling, something that just happens or doesn't. But framing it as an action, a choice, shifts everything. It reminds me that even when the emotions aren’t there, we can still choose to act with kindness and compassion. It’s not always easy, especially when those “unlovable parts” you mentioned are our own. Yet, as you said, choosing to love those parts, to accept them and work with them, not against them, is a way to heal and grow. It’s a conscious practice, a daily decision to extend grace and understanding, both to ourselves and to others. It's like choosing to plant a garden when all you see is weeds. It takes effort and commitment, but the rewards are immeasurable.
Thank you for your comment! I believe we need more love in action now, than ever before.
Virg on the verge. Us?
Shy horse and self-whisperer,
experiments, learns.
Thanks for reading!
I'm so glad experiment 1 turned out a success, you can likely trace the person you've become back to that initial experiment!
Experiment 3 is fundamental, I think we all need to make that realisation at some point in our lives that maybe we were wrong at first.
#5, the horse training sounds fascinating, I kind of think that sounds like the "fake it till you make it" mindset. Where you believe you can, so you can. Or when a child falls down and hurt's themselves, if you act like it's no big deal, it isn't but if you fuss over them and coddle them, they will lean into the hurt because you're signalling they should.
#6 hits home, I don't take compliments or attention well, I really don't know why. I need to work through that.
I love this Virg, exactly the kind of thing I was hoping to read, and you treated us to not one experiment but six! I'm glad to see that for the most part they have all worked out so far. Thank you so much for taking part this month!
Thanks Mark. I'm so happy to get feedback from you!
Happy to give it 😊